Life can be overwhelming and sometimes we put our relationships on the back burner. We don't put as much effort into coming up with romantic ideas as we once did. There's nothing like a fun surprise to spice things up.
How can surprises add spice to your relationship?
Building intimacy and trust
Surprises can rekindle the love that may have taken a backseat due to the stress and responsibilities of life and add the spice back to your relationship.
Keeping the spark alive
Getting out of your comfort zone is a great way to keep the spark alive. A romantic yet spontaneous bedroom surprise is a great start.
Showing appreciation and love
Giving your boyfriend a surprise "gift" is the perfect way to show him appreciation and affection and can brighten his day (or night). They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach but we're taking another route today.
Sexy Wear
Set the mood and feel sexy by wearing lingerie
Blow his mind by surprising him with your favorite lingerie set or add a sexy little number to your collection that he's never seen before. Teddies, bodystocking, plus size lingerie and more - the options are endless.
You can also opt for a sexy bodysuit or revealing dress. Try a pair of crotchless panties with a garter and stocking. Finish the look with a pair of nipple pasties or tassels. These will definitely grab and keep his attention.
Red and Black are always great choices but you can also think outside the box and go with your boyfriend's favorite color or an eye-catching color that he won't expect. Add your favorite pair of high heels to complete the look and vibe.
Fulfill his fantasy with a naughty costume
Be his teacher or sexy bunny for the night. You can even be his naughty nurse - see how high you can get his temperature to rise and take your time bringing it back down. Use your imagination. Who knows how far it will take you both?
This can lead to another fun surprise - role play. Act out his favorite sexual fantasies and scenarios. Add a wig and switch up your entire look. This can be fun and exciting for both of you. Whether you pretend to be doctor and patient or complete strangers, it will be a night that he'll never forget.
Who says lingerie is only for women?
Add extra heat to the bedroom by getting your boyfriend some sexy underwear or men's lingerie. You can choose from boxer shorts, jockstraps, thongs and any of your other favorite types of styles of lingerie for men. This is a surprise gift that you both can enjoy!
Sensual Surprises
Give him a romantic massage
Give your boyfriend a nice full-body massage. Pay attention to his body language and focus on the areas that he enjoys most. Give special attention to his "sweet spots". A nice massage will help him relax and prepare him for whatever else you have in store.
If you want to give your man a deeper massage, you can use a vibrating massage wand. Personal massagers are versatile and easy to use. You can easily find one that's made of body-safe silicone, waterproof and rechargeable.
Turn the heat up by talking to him while giving him a massage. Talk to your boyfriend romantically by whispering sweet nothings in his ear or talk dirty to him. Do whatever feels right in the moment.
Using massage oil and lubricant to enhance the experience
Massage oils can create an intimate experience for both you and your boyfriend. Choose his favorite scents and flavors. Experiment with heating and cooling lubricants and oils. Use your fingers and mouth to make things more exciting.
Try temperature play. Heating and cooling oils will create different sensations on your man's skin. This can intensify the feelings of sex and orgasm. You can also use sex toys for temperature play. Put a glass or stainless steel toy in the freeze or warm water to try different feelings.
Add a little hot wax to your partner play. Grab some massage candles. They burn at a lower temperature than regular candles so their wax won't burn your boyfriend. They are designed to be safe for the skin and will feel lukewarm to the touch. Massage candles are often made from soy wax, shea butter, beeswax, coconut oil, jojoba oil and essential oils. You can massage the wax from these candles into his skin.
Birthday Gifts
Give him a sexy birthday gift
Gift your boyfriend a book of coupons that he can redeem whenever he wants for naughty surprises. Some ideas for the coupon book could be different positions and roleplay scenarios.
It would be a great idea to invest in sex furniture or position aids to make redeeming those coupons even more fun. Swings, pillows, wedges and other furniture made for sex other ways to spice things up.
Play a birthday game
There are lots of board and card games made for couples. You can even get creative and make your own. Both of you win at these games and they make for a happy ending to his special day.
Give him a lap dance or strip tease
Sit your man down, play some soft music and give your man a lap dance. This is a great way to build excitement. Take it up a notch and install a pole in your bedroom to perform a pole dance for him.
You can take a pole dancing class to improve your moves. There are also plenty of YouTube channels that can give you ideas and inspiration for a sexual dance you can perform for your boyfriend.
Take the lead
Most men love it when a woman initiates sex
What better way to make your man feel good than to initiate sex? Make him feel like he's loved and desired. You can build anticipation by sending him a surprise message telling him how you can't wait to get your hands on him.
Incorporate BDSM during sex
Take control in the bed. Add light (or not so light) BDSM play to your sex routine. Do whatever is comfortable for the two of you. You be the dominant one and let him submit. Who knows all the interesting things you might discover that will have you both surprised.
Add toys to the fun
Sex toys aren't only for solo play
There are so many options when it comes to couples' toys. There are app-controlled vibrators that can be controlled by your partner from a long distance. You can play with remote-controlled toys that either of you can control.
Sex toys also make great props when it comes to role play. If you’ve always wanted to play the authoritative school teacher, there’s a paddle for that. Or maybe you’ve been fantasizing about playing a police officer and handcuffing your suspect to the bed ― no matter the fantasy, dressing up, roleplaying, and using toys as your props is the best way to make your and your partner's fantasies come true.
Cock rings
Cock rings can increase his pleasure and also allow him to stay harder longer. This can be a great addition to your sexual activities. Some cock rings have vibrations to intensify your partner's pleasure.
Some vibrating cock rings will provide pressure and vibration to his perineum while also providing vibrations that you can feel on your clitoris. This could lead to incredible sensations for you both.
Strap-on
Strap-on the fun with harnesses and pegging kits. These toys are designed for g-spot and p-spot stimulation giving you something that you both can enjoy. From beginner to seasoned explorer, there is something for every couple.
This is a very short list of sex toys that couples can use to spice things up or add a nice surprise in the bedroom. Imagine all the pleasure you both could have by exploring these and other options.
You don't have to wait for a special occasion to surprise your partner. Get creative, have fun, and watch your relationship blossom with love and excitement!
